Sometimes in relationships, things can get a little weird or confusing.
It’s like when your friend comes over and is talking about how their marriage fell apart, and you feel kind of uncomfortable for them but also really interested.
You might be feeling that way right now because this article will talk about something very similar!
We’ll go into more detail than what happened in the other person’s relationship, but I guarantee you’re going to relate.
It’s easy to assume that relationships are always fun, but making time for each other takes work. Sometimes, though, things just don’t seem to “work” at the moment, and you need to break off from one another.
That’s totally normal! You’re both human beings, so sometimes there will be times when you feel like you’ll never connect with someone again.
However, it is possible to rebuild trust, and here’s how to do it.
Make your relationship a priority by planning activities together outside of romantic encounters. Take walks or trips down memory lane, go out for coffee or drinks some days, play games or chat about something you both enjoy.
If you notice signs of tension rising in the air, try talking it through before it gets worse. Don’t make assumptions – ask them directly if they’re feeling bad, and what they’re struggling with.
This way, you’ll know whether to continue spending time together, or not, and you can take appropriate action.
Try new things
Let’s look at an example. You have two people who love each other but then one of them spends all their time with everyone else.
That doesn’t work for anyone except perhaps for their own self-esteem, so they should try to spend more time alone so that they can feel happy without someone else around.
The same thing happens in relationships.
One person may get into a rhythm where they are constantly involved with you, helping you plan your dates or doing something with you every minute. That works great if you both want that kind of relationship but not if you both wanted to be separate.
If either of you wants to stay single, it will hurt your friendship.
You need to agree to disagree about what type of relationship you want. If you find yourself thinking “well I guess we aren’t going to make it as friends anymore because she/he never asked me to do that!” then maybe it is time to reevaluate how you relate to each other.
Everyone has different needs and priorities and you must be able to accept that before you can hope to keep this person as a friend.
By being open and honest about what you want out of life and from this person, you will probably figure out what you need to do sooner than later.
Ask for reassurance
Sometimes, no matter how strong you are as a person, or how confident you feel in yourself, that inner voice telling you not to trust someone is too powerful.
It can make you doubt your decisions, put off important conversations, and avoid people who could potentially be hurt by your actions.
This is totally normal!
We’re all entitled to our own doubts and fears, but we need to work through them with care and confidence.
Because when you do invest in relationships, you want to know it’s going to mean something. You don’t just go into friendship with someone else because they’re nice to you — there has to be more behind it.
And if you’re not sure if what you have is real or not, it’ll affect you both negatively.
Ask for reassurance
“I love you” are great starting points, but they aren’t enough sometimes. You have to ask for more – not just because it is nice to be loved, but also because it can help you determine if your relationship will work or not.
If you don’t get clear answers back then that maybe isn’t the right person for you – no one is perfect!
But asking directly about doubts could also prove helpful in determining whether there is hope for you both to stay together or not. If you’re constantly worrying about how much money he/she spends even though you agree it’s too much, chances are you’ll end up investing less money than you want to.
And if you keep having arguments over little things then it may be time to rethink your tolerance for such behavior.
Take time for each other
Setting a good tone with your significant other begins with showing them that you care about them and want to spend time with them.
This includes going out as couples, staying in for nights or days together, and limiting activities to just one night every few weeks is best.
Not only does this give your partner some down time, it helps maintain intimacy since you’re not doing anything else at the time. Plus, if they wanted to do something else after the movie, they could!
Making efforts to include each other in hobbies and/or daily life routines are ways to show love. If you both enjoy watching movies, go into a half-hour long session without talking otherwise there’s no need for more than two hours of quality time per week.
If you notice that your mate is spending less and less time with you, try to work on having more one-on-one times with them. It may mean asking how their day was or telling them what you’ve been up to lately.
Experts suggest keeping conversations mostly light and fun to help facilitate these types of interactions.
How to make the relationship strong? Start by giving yourself first. You’re worth it.
Do fun things together
Letting go of all your worries for a few hours is a great way to strengthen your bond as friends. You can do this by going out for a movie or bowling, visiting a museum or zoo, playing a game you both like, or anything that seems playful and enjoyable to you.
Having a good time with each other is an excellent way to spend time outside of work and home. These activities should be casual and not too long so they are still a nice quiet break from whatever you were doing before.
Make sure to keep in touch the next day either through phone calls or messages or chat apps such as Whatsapp, Kik, and Facebook Messenger. Keep conversations light and natural, don’t force it if it isn’t happening naturally yet.
If one of you is getting tired or distracted, drop the activity and pick it up later. Don’t make big plans until you are sure the other person does too, but try to stay active as much as possible because…
Knowing each other well means we notice when something is off for someone else. We may also know what makes them happy and what doesn’t, which helps us to cater our activities to their needs.
Do not try to be a mindreader
It is very important to understand that as your partner’s best friend, they will expect you to know some things about them.
If there was something bothering them before, it may still be there even though you have been with them for a while now. You should ask if anything has changed since the last time you spoke and what might make things better or worse at this stage in their life.
By being aware of these things, you can help determine whether or not you need to do something, find out more about it, or leave someone alone to work through their issues.
It is also important to remember that relationships take work and don’t happen overnight.
Talk to each other about your feelings
It’s very important that you are both aware of how your emotions affect each other. When one person is not allowed to show their true self, relationships suffer greatly.
In order for this to change, people need to be able to talk about things. You should be honest with each other and ask questions so you can get clear answers.
It’s also worth noting that when someone does not feel comfortable talking, they may keep certain parts of themself hidden. This could mean keeping secrets or avoiding situations because they don’t know what to say.
If this happens in your relationship, it’s time to do something about it.
Give each other space but make an effort to have conversations. Ask open-ended questions to gain more information.